How to Change Your Life: The 3 Parts of Your Brain You Must Train

how to change your life

Had myself an Oprah moment today while reading Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. Yep, still on that train.

An Oprah-espq, that’s so major moment.

Over here emphatically shaking my head and shouting YASSS to the dog, while reading about the three areas of the brain and how they operate.

Think about driving a car for a sec. We all know how to drive a car right? Well, maybe some of us have forgotten. One of the most terrifying experiences of my life was when I had to rent a car to drive to Connecticut from NYC for a friend’s bridal shower, having not driven for like five years. Death grip on the wheel the entire two hours.

But most of us know how to drive a car on a subconscious level. Meaning, we can do it naturally, without thinking – the habits are automatic. Without much thinking, we can throw it in reverse, or slow down at a stop sign, or press our right foot on the gas to speed up.

Except my Aunt Ellen, who uses both feet – her right for the gas and her left for the brake – which is terrifying.

Much of what we learn is a progression from thinking to doing to being. When we learn how to drive, we go from thinking about turning on a blinker before turning as we’re instructed, to doing it when we get in the driver’s seat, to being a driver and moving our hand to the blinker reflexively when making a turn.

This is our three brains at work. The three brains being:

  1. The neocortex (the thinking brain)
  2. The limbic brain (the chemical/emotional brain)
  3. The cerebellum (the brain’s memory center)

Man if this scientific anatomy tutorial doesn’t win back those five subscribers we lost yesterday, I’m not sure what will.

JK not here to bore you. I do have a point, which is to say that if you want to learn how to change your life, you have to create a new way of thinking, doing and being. And we’ve all got these three brains to work with, so understanding how they function helps.

You should know that I failed high school biology, so if I can understand this shit I promise you can too. Plus this is fun. There is nothing fun about dissecting a frog, if you ask me.

So, yes, changing our lives.

To do so, we have to first change our thoughts and feelings, then we gotta do something (change our actions and behaviors), which in turn produces a new feeling. Then we memorize that feeling, until we move into a new state of being, so that the mind and body are one.

Easy enough right?

Lol sure. Let’s break this down a bit.

  1. The neocortex helps us process knowledge. It’s where we begin to entertain new thoughts and think about modifying our behavior, so we can do something differently when the opportunity presents itself. It’s where your brain processes any new information you learn.
  2. The limbic brain produces chemicals and new emotions to help us remember experiences. When we apply knowledge, we teach the body what the mind has already intellectually learned.
  3. The cerebellum stores habitual thoughts, attitudes and behaviors. It’s the seat of the subconscious mind, and is activated by memory without thought. This is the point at which you create a new neurochemical state if the body and mind have been working together.

Any time we want to change something in life, it’s extremely easy to get stuck in the learning and philosophical side. But when we take it two steps further and we train all three parts of our brain together, this is when the magic happens, and life seemingly starts to organize itself equal to who we’re being and how we show up in the world. We start to feel happiness all the time, naturally, and become a magnet for things, people and circumstances that make us happy.

Of course, the reverse is also true. If you’re regularly tossing around negative, sad thoughts, chances are you’ll constantly victimize yourself, believing nothing is ever easy for you and that the world is against you. How do you think you’re going to feel? What will you attract? Hint: it’s not gonna be anything positive.

In the same way we learn to drive a car, we can learn to change our lives for the better.

We can modify whatever unproductive behaviors we want, or create amazing new default states, whether that’s happiness, abundance, freedom, fun, whatever you want!

Isn’t that liberating? You can literally change your innate programming. But you have to take the knowledge and put yourself into the equation, that’s the tough part. So go decide what kinda ideal state you’d envision for yourself, and start thinking doing and being.

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